I got the idea of writing this while I was (pretending) to be busy at work a few weeks back and it seems that coincidentally that so many things that has been happening within this past couple of weeks that has been inputting into this thought.
Each and every one of us has heard of this before, so many people out there would have their own theories about getting into relationships and for some of us, have been given these theories as "sound advice" during our high or low times. Question is, how many are these theories out there? Even for myself, I've added in a few of my own over the years so I figured it would be a great idea if I was to try and compile most of them here.
Long Distance Relationships - they never work...
Online Dating - always a disaster..
Say what you want about online dating, despite all the technological advancements that you can get from social online meet up, online dating has always been a recipe for disaster. Some one once came up to me and told me that there was once he met up with this girl on mIRC (yes, I am that old...) and had an awesome 3 months online chat relationship with this person, and when the day came for him to meet the person, she turned out to be a transvestite working in the fashion industry (swear not making this up). When something like this happen, who would you blame? I guess the days of A/S/L are long gone...
Get to know a person then get together with the person, never the other way around
This was once told to me by "Stormy"Reza many year ago in the midst of my really bad relationship. Rule of thumb that he held on for his relationship is that no one should ever get together with a person without knowing who the person really is first. Come at least in that situation you'll never find any hidden surprises on difference of personality along the relationship.
I know for this one, a lot would be very subjective on whether to agree with this or not. For myself, I have to agree with him for this theory since I had my fair share of surprises within 3 - 4 months of the relationship.
Changing a person when getting into a relationship - not!
How many of you people out there have heard this one before? Most people would tell you that you can never change a person when you get them into a relationship, for the very reason that you're about to attempt to change something that has already been a part of him just for a relationship would be as sound as a penguin trying to land a Jumbo Jet. Fact of the matter is some people might be able to change but it has to be for himself, never for another person.
Break-ups are never the end
I know that this would be a slight sensitive topic but back in time when I had to go through a massive break up, a really good friend of mine once told me that a break up is never the end, its a start of a new hunt. That was when I realized that so many people would rather look at the tragic side of break ups rather than the cynical and funny side of it. I laughed my head out so hard that night, completely forgotten about how painful the break up was.
Fact of the matter is, if a person would want to see a break up as a tragic tale to your sorry life, then so be it. Life's a bit more to that I feel and when I was made to see it that way, I just had to agree.
Checking on your partner's phone/SMS is alright
Leaving the best for last, this is also another one that I am sure so many people have heard before and frankly, no one would be able to give a straight answer as to whether they would agree to this or not. Fact of the matter is that a lot of people get worried by filling in the ideas of finding their partners having "sexting" sessions with another person or in some situations, some would argue that if you have nothing to hide, then it makes this situation alright. This one I would have to get people to discuss on.
SO, this would be just a few of the ones that I have heard so far and frankly I know that there are many more out there that people would know of. Do share what you guys have heard, wouldn't mind adding more to the list I already know. :D